Sad Black and White blog ** Trigger Warning **
Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.Because I think pretty much every female has experienced something like this and should therefore take note.
I wish I’d read this 6 years ago. Anyway, I choose to look at the good ramifications of that night, so.
A couple of days ago I failed at something I really, really wanted. I could’ve felt worse about it, but my friends were there while I was being tested, and when we found out that I failed, they immediately, simultaneously, talked about how well I did, and how I shouldn’t have failed, and how one of them, who passed, did far worse and firmly believed that there was nothing wrong with me.
And it didn’t matter what they said, because just the fact that they were sincerely trying to make me feel better, and God, being His amazing Self, answering my prayers were just too heavy for me too bear that I was thisclose to crying. Thisclose.
Gayle Forman, Just One Year
I realize that I haven’t written about where I am in my life for a while. The last time I wrote a blog post was during midterms week, when I was feeling very sad. I guess, from an outsider’s point of view, my problems are pathetic. All I ever worry about is school. But the thing is, I have so much shit going on in my life that I don’t like talking about because I could never change them, as much as I want to. That’s why I focus all my energy with school.
A few pictures to inspire empathy. Feels.
one thing that has to be said to 3rd picture: it were as much men as women and children killed in these chambers. Also not only Jews, also people who spoke against Hitler, Gipsy and other minorities.
Everyone please reblog this. I want all of tumblr to see this.
so true ugh
YES. this is the sad truth. we need to change this
This is so powerful and heartbreaking.